What are healthy things to discuss before getting serious?

Talk about values, family, children, money, religion, career plans and where you want to live. Share how you handle conflict. These conversations can feel heavy but save heartache later. Do it gradually and listen.

Use a relaxed setting such as a long walk. Ask open questions and be honest. Differences are fine, but core needs should match.

Wait until the sadness and hope have settled, usually a few months. Ask yourself if contact leaves you calm or unsettled. If you both want to try, keep it light, meet in groups first and be honest with any new partner. If it hurts, step back.