What should I say in the first message on a dating app?

Mention something specific from their profile and ask an easy, open question, such as "I saw you like hiking. What is your favourite trail?" Keep it friendly and short. Avoid generic lines like "hi" alone or compliments about looks only.

Add a touch of humour if it feels natural. Reply thoughtfully to their answers and suggest a call when the chat flows.

Check whether you can be yourself, say no without fear, disagree and still feel respected, and whether both of you put in effort. You should feel safer, not smaller, over time. Good couples also repair after fights with a sincere apology and a plan.