I charged my friends for the food at my birthday party. They were shocked.
I hosted my birthday at home. Cooked for 12 people: biryani, starters, a cake from a nice bakery. It cost a lot.
In the group invite I wrote 'Party at mine! $15 each to cover food 🙂'. Nobody said anything.
At the party, two friends said it was 'weird' to pay for someone's birthday, and one later posted a story with the caption 'first birthday I've paid entry for 😂'.
I said it clearly in advance. Is this really that bad?
You said it in advance, which helps. But a birthday party with a cover charge feels like a restaurant, not a celebration.
Fair to ask, but better to say 'potluck, bring a dish'. Same result, warmer feeling.
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Leaning towards the author being wrong, but not by a landslide (17% say right, 63% say wrong).
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🧠 Psychology lens
A host asked guests to share the food cost in advance, and some felt it clashed with how a birthday is usually celebrated.
May feel she was open about a real cost.
Guests may feel they were handed a bill at a celebration where being hosted is expected.
Psychology ideas that may apply
We feel we should repay favours and kindness, and we feel wronged when others do not.
Here: Hosting and being hosted carry unwritten rules about who gives and who receives.
People often go along with the group even when they privately have doubts.
Here: Social norms about birthdays are strong even when nobody has written them down.
💡 A potluck or a "pay for your own drinks" set-up reaches the same goal with a warmer feel.
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