My parents want me to become a doctor. I switched to studying music and didn't tell them for a year.
My parents pushed me towards medicine my whole life. I got in. After the first year I was miserable and switched to a music degree at the same university. I didn't tell them for a full year because I was scared.
They found out when a relative saw my name in a concert programme. My father said I lied to their faces every week for a year. My mother cried for days.
I'm finally happy and doing well. But was hiding it unforgivable?
Choosing your life: right. Lying for a whole year: wrong. You can be proud of one and sorry for the other.
Sometimes people lie because the truth isn't safe to say. Your parents need to ask themselves why you were scared.
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🔬 The analysis
Leaning towards the author being right, but not by a landslide (62% say right, 30% say wrong).
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🧠 Psychology lens
A student switched from medicine to music and hid it for a year because the truth did not feel safe.
May feel relieved to be on his own path but guilty about the secrecy.
Parents may feel deceived and fear for his future after years of hope.
Psychology ideas that may apply
Cultures differ in how much weight they give to family duty versus personal choice.
Here: Some families see a career as a shared family project, others as a personal choice.
We keep investing in something because of what we have already spent, not because it is still worth it.
Here: The years and money already put into medicine can make letting go feel like a waste.
💡 Telling the reason behind the hiding, not only the choice, often helps parents hear it.
Written by AI from one person's account, using well-known psychology ideas for reflection. It is not a diagnosis or advice, and it can be wrong.
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