What should we do when one partner earns much more than the other?

Talk openly about what each person contributes, including unpaid work. Many couples share bills in proportion to income and keep some personal money for each. The aim is that neither person feels controlled or ungrateful.

Try this: 1) Each of you writes down what you give, in money, time and care. 2) Agree on a share of the bills that feels fair to both. 3) Keep a small personal allowance each and review the plan every six months.