A colleague asked for my salary. I told her. Now my manager is angry with me.
A colleague who does the exact same job asked me what I earn. I told her. Turned out she earns noticeably less, even though she's been here longer.
She went to our manager and asked for a raise, mentioning she knew what I make. My manager called me into a meeting and said salary is 'confidential' and that I've 'created a problem in the team'.
I never signed anything saying I can't share my salary. Was I wrong?
The 'problem in the team' already existed. You just made it visible. In many countries discussing your pay is legally protected too.
Your manager isn't angry that you shared. He's angry he got caught underpaying someone.
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Strong agreement. 77% rated it 7 or higher: most people think the author was right.
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🧠 Psychology lens
Sharing pay between coworkers exposed a gap, and the manager's reaction focused on confidentiality rather than the difference.
May feel she did nothing wrong and be anxious about consequences.
The manager may feel caught out and worry about wider unrest.
Psychology ideas that may apply
People want what they give and what they get to feel fair, and unfairness is stressful.
Here: A pay gap for the same work is a classic trigger for the sense of unfairness.
The first number or idea we hear pulls our later judgement towards it.
Here: The first salary offered tends to anchor what each person thinks is fair.
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Written by AI from one person's account, using well-known psychology ideas for reflection. It is not a diagnosis or advice, and it can be wrong.
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